Conflict in Relationships: The Four WarHeads

Here i want to talk about the idea of conflict in Relationship: you can find inner-peace and a deeper connection with your Partner, through conflict,Yes i know you just asked HOW? keep reading, We are discussing conflict in the context of a Relationship that means a lot to you and your partner, you care about each other and this is a connection where there is more at stake. The conflict may cause hurt and/or harm to both partners in the Relationship and there is potentially more to lose than gain.


Many Relationships end when they reach a place of conflict cause they dont know how to manage their conflict. How we deal with it, or don’t deal with it matters alot and it can have a positive or negative impact in your Relationship and often times we don’t know how to successfully navigate through conflict in our Relationship.You might be wondering how do i know i am in conflict with my partner,well Here’s what i mean by conflict: Conflict is a strong disagreement between two people. It can be a difference of opinion, when opinions clash or when someone does something we perceive as offensive, insensitive or insulting.Now if any of this is happening in your relationship or marriage then you are experience conflict.but dont give up as long as there is a will there must be a way out of it.We might not see the connection between how we are as a partner and how we are as a daughter, sibling, parent, friend, etc. It is likely that how we deal with conflict and our conflict style is something most likely learned from our family or surroundings. It is probably similar across all our relationships including our marriages. It is difficult to acknowledge how ugly it can be in conflict, and it is humbling as well depending on how you and your partner see it.

In this research on relationships, i have been able to discover four main ways partners stare up conflict or difficult conversations in  their Relationships. and i  call them THE FOUR WARHEADS. They are:

Criticism,
Defensiveness,
Stonewalling and
Contempt.

I will be Expanding more on these four Warheads on my next post,so keep loving your partner and dont give up as long as you believe in what you have,dont forget to check back to learn how you can fight your way out of conflict to have a peaceful Relationship.